To write or not to Write?

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The start of a new year and the resolutions for many has begun.

I’ve have only set one resolution for myself year after year and that was to quit smoking. I accomplished that resolution in 2013.

I find myself wondering if I should set a new resolution. I have thought about it and am still unsure if I should.

Why do we set resolutions?

Most of the resolutions that I read about are all selfish ones. Get in better health. Quit smoking/drinking. Spend more time with family, less time working.

Why is it that you never hear volunteer at a soup kitchen, start up a non-profit for under privilege children, join a foundation to help with the environment?

So here is my resolution for 2014: Make enough money to have the time to give hope.

In order to do this, I have to obtain clients.

On January 13th, I plan to have my free report, about page, and action plan completed.

The reason I think so many people fail at their resolutions, is that they do not have a comprehensive plan set. Most just think, I’ll eat better, go to the gym and I will get into better health. Not realizing dedication and organization are the key.

A plan not thought out, is a fool proof way to not achieve these goals. Most get lost in the translation.

This happens in writing as well. I have a schedule for my writing. Certain days I focus on different aspects of my career. It is all in my calendar.

The best thing about my calendar is that it allows me to change it up. There is one thing I need to accomplish for a day. Write 1,000 words or more a day.

When I do this, the rest of my day is completed. I know this doesn’t sound like much, but trust me, it is.

If I don’t run, I start to feel sluggish. The same happens if I don’t write my set goal of words a day. Although, I don’t feel sluggish. I feel as if something is amiss.

When this happens, I open a blank page and start to write. Like running, this helps clear my head.

I have been absent from my blog for a few days. This was done on purpose. Every time I logged in and hit New Post, I felt no need to write. I knew I should have written something, but I opted out of it. I wanted to give my mind a few days to rejuvenate.

I still wrote in my journal, dream log, and worked on projects for work, I just didn’t feel the need to blog.

Here is another error most make in their resolutions. A few days of inactivity and they give up. There is nothing wrong with taking a few days to yourself. It is no more selfish than most of the resolutions we set for ourselves anyway.

There were a few times last year I had a cigarette. Did this mean that I had given up on quitting. Absolutely not. It just meant I took a small step in a different direction than I wanted.

If we make no mistakes, we will not learn. This is why I did not beat myself up when I relapsed. I told myself, “Thats fine, you had one cigarette. It doesn’t mean you are smoking again.”

This attitude kept my resolve strong and I moved on. The same with my writing. If I don’t finish some goal I set for myself to improve, I don’t worry about it. I forgive myself.

Don’t beat yourself up if you relapse from time to time. Its human nature. We are not perfect beings by any means. We are adaptable creatures.

Happy writing everyone.

Hello 2014

Its time to say “Good-bye” to 2013 and “Hello” to 2014. 

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Was 2013 memorable? Did you accomplish everything you wanted? Did you stick to your New Year’s Resolutions?

Have you made any new Resolutions for 2014? What goals do you want to achieve?

2013 was an eye opening year for me. Many things in my life changed. I lost old friends, made new ones, and most importantly, I made a life changing career move. 

By far the most important decision I made was to quit smoking. While I fell off the wagon here and there, it was the best thing I could have done for my health. 

I have been reading a lot lately about making 2014 the best year of your life. I don’t think you need to pick a certain day to change your life. You can start whenever.

Granted, I made the decision to quit smoking a New Year’s Resolution, but it was the only one. I decided to pursue a career in writing in October of 2012. And I stuck with it. 

With 2014 right around the corner, many people are in Resolution overdrive. Whether it be get into better shape, stop drinking/smoking, do more for the less fortunate, everyone is looking for that 1 thing to help them feel better about themselves. 

Here are a few things I think are important, and you don’t need to make them a Resolution. 

1) Say Hello

Whether your at the gym, grocery store, or coffee shop, we’ve all avoided talking to the next person in line. For some reason, we find it easier to ignore them and stay inside our heads. A simple smile and hello could make a bad day better for the other person into a better one. 

2) Leave Routine Behind

Routines can be comforting. After all, you know how its going to end. There in lies the problem. Mundane can get boring. Spice it up. Take a different route to work. If you exercise after work, try getting it in before hand. Try a new cologne. Get a different haircut. 

3) DISCONNECT

Shut off the phone. Log off of Facebook, Pinterst, and Instagram. Sit down with your friends and family without distractions. Let them know that you are completely there for them.

4) Be Nicer

Be more tolerant of people. We are the land of the free, we need to accept everyone in all their shapes, sizes, and colors. Stop posting comments that make you look ignorant. No one likes someone who is constantly putting down other people. 

5) Do Something Wonderful

Pay it Forward and Random Acts of Kindness not only make you feel better, but will make your family and friends think better about you. 

If you want a better year, you have to start with yourself. You don’t need a New Year’s Resolution, you just need the attitude to accomplish it. And the will to succeed. This final tip could be the most important of them all. 

Be Yourself.