Word of the Day

Word of the Day: Sonder
Definition: (n)
1) the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness

To write or not to write?


So this website is being a royal pain in my ass. I’m pretty tech savvy, but the scope of this project is pretty daunting.

The layout, the design, the theme. The only thing I am really sure about is the content for my pages. Doh, I’m a writer. 

Widgets, plugins, and customization are enough to drive anyone to drink. 

I’m pretty sure I would have it completed by now, but I live in Illinois. My friends who are all union workers are now laid off. There is probably 14 inches of snow on the ground, and as I type this up, it is again snowing.

Most of my time has been spent shoveling and riding on my snowmobile. Finally a year I can use it more than 7 times. 

The only downfall to all of this, I have not spent much time on the computer or prospecting for clients. 

The time away from the computer does not bother me in the slightest. Not prospecting is killing me though. I am not far enough along in my career to be able to take the time off I have. 

However, I am a firm believer in taking sanity over money any day. Yes, it is nice to have money, but if you are constantly working and not enjoying it, are you really living?


My days seem so much different from where they were a week ago. I still do my exercise routine, write in my journal, and do my school work, but it seems so much richer now.

Thank you friends.

I am not saying we don’t deserve time off, but I have a nagging sense I am not accomplishing anything. 

I know this in not true, as my journal is filled with ideas I want to try to gather clients. Maybe I have been looking at the situation to long, and this time off is actually recharging my batteries. 

I have mentioned before, since my block, I haven’t felt like writing much. I have, I just don’t put the kind of energy in it I once did. Now its more to refine my craft. 

I know it is working, because classmates have mentioned it in our discussion threads. They are also enjoying the ideas and tips I give. I am in an English class, and being a writer, I have a keener eye than most.

Even the teacher enjoys my suggestions. She will elaborate on something I mentioned to a classmate. Always pointing me out. 

This time around, I don’t think my classmates are upset with me, like in previous classes. I have always encouraged and given tips in my class discussions, but some people in prior terms did not appreciate the help. 

Personally, I love being ripped apart about my writing. If its all praise, I can never expect to improve. But when the red is there, its time to learn. 

I have decided to take a Marketing class. I have gotten advice from A LOT of different people. Now its time to take a class and see where it leads. 

I hope there is some internet marketing involved. The class had better be up to date. Computers and freelance work is the way of the future. 

Happy writing everyone.

Pen Pal

I want a pen pal.

Not knowing where to get an address from, I did what I usually do when I want to research something, I Googled it. 

Over 6 million hits. 

I refined my search to “hand written” pen pals. 3,125 hits. 

That’s all?

So over 6 million websites are geared towards pen pals online!? WTF????

There are varied reasons to start a penpalship, yes, I’m coining this term. But I never realized how many people would forgo the act of actually sitting down with pen and paper to write to someone. 

I won’t discredit an online pen pal, but how are you going to build any patience if you always gravitate towards the instant gratification of online technology. Having to wait for the “snail” mail to deliver the letter is part of the anticipation of a pen pal. 

Unplugging from all of this technology and getting in touch with yourself and with someone else is a great way to build up social skills. Also it is a great way to make another friend in another part of the world. 

One of the many perks of having a pen pal, it allows you to learn another culture. What’s do you have in common? What’s different? What do they eat? What’s their work day like?

Writing a letter, helps improve motor skills and increases brain pathways. It also helps hone reading and writing skills. This in turns leads to better communication skills. 

With better communication skills, it also helps with language skills. It helps to increase the thesaurus  that is already hardwired inside your head. If you don’t use it, you lose it. 

Also, if they are in another country, it maybe helpful in learning a new language. Its scientifically proven those that speak two or more languages and more intelligent. And what bette way to learn a new language than from a native friend from another country.

One of the best reasons to have a pen pal, is you will be able to talk about some things you do not feel comfortable telling anyone else. Most pen pals remain just that, a pen pal. 

Finally , getting a letter in the mail is the whole point of a pen pal. If you want to receive some mail in your inbox, why not subscribe to a few newsletters. 

Yes, most of the fore mentioned points can be done with a pen pal online, but some can’t. You will need to sit down with a pen and paper to achieve these. Nothing correcting your misspelled words, punctuation, and grammatical errors except your built in computer. 

I can see the merit in both types of pen pals, but to have a truly unique experience with them, try sitting down to pen and paper and writing it out. 

The last point I am going to mention is that it helps with your handwriting. As with anything, the more you practice, the more efficient you become. 

Happy writing everyone.